ugh...do I Really Have to Wait 6 Weeks ?

I never made it past 4 with any of my kids. 6 weeks was just too long for us too... Go for it! its not like you can't stop if you do begin to have second thoughts.

Depends on how traumatic birth was. With my first I didn't get back in the saddle for over 3 months, but I was sitting on 45 stitches thanks to his enormous head, so it was very difficult for me to want it again afterwards. Plus my ex-husband wasn't pushing the issue.

With my second, I suffered only a small abrasion that was healed within a week. My husband now was very understanding, but also very impatient. So was I. We only waited until the bleeding stopped. If you don't wait until the bleeding stops, you are risking uterine infection since it still hasn't closed/healed all of the way after birth. We were back in action at 4 weeks.

After my son, we didn't even make it to 4 weeks! I had no tears and felt very well. In fact, just a few days after birth, we were already "playing" and waited a little over 3 weeks for penetration. No pain and lots of fun, but have some lubricant at hand as the area remains quite dry for a while (for me, until I stopped breastfeeding, 15 months later)
After my daughter, different story. She was in hospital for 2 weeks, I had master's final exams, exhausted. Didn't even want to!
If you are in the mood and not in pain, go for it!

I was so exhausted I would have beat up my husband for even suggesting it. :-)

OMG...good for you!!! I was praying that the 6 week restriction would never end! I was soooo not wanting sex.

I would be very careful and cautious if you were to try!!!

I know several ladies who did not wait the full 6 weeks. As long as you are healed sufficiently (if you have questions ask your doc or midwife with specific info) the date doesn't matter. If you are no longer bleeding, then your uterous is probably back where it belongs, and if you had no damage, and you feel up to it, I would say go for it... with care. But since you did have a small tear (I know, first degree, but nonetheless, with sex it will stretch and if not fully healed it may re-tear it) I would give it another week. After that, if you feel like it... and have the energy... go for it.
Congrats on the new baby and the renewed sex drive... many of us take longer to recover that than it takes to get to baby's first birthday celebration... lol.

um...how do you have the desire? OMG there are so many nights where I STILL dont and my DD is almost 19 mo. lucky you!!!!!! I had a c-section and it hurt forever and a day so I cant help you w/ that one...you are half way there though....

Wow! I've only had c-sections, so I don't have an answer. Just wow, that you have the urge, desire, energy, and time for sex 3 weeks after giving birth! More power to you!

I don't think I made it the whole 6 weeks. I only had a first degree tear too. We mostly did other things till we couldn't stand it anymore. Good Luck!

I waited about 2 weeks after my second natural birth, 2 weeks after my c section, I had a small tear, but it healed quick, they recommended 6 weeks, but there was no way I wanted to wait that long - I was 34 having her, so I am no spring chicken, I just think my hubbie is gorgeous!

Your husband is a lucky man!
There are lots of things you can do without penetration to satisfy both of you. I bled forever, waited 6+ weeks, and it still hurt the first time. Everyone is different, so try, go slow, and back off if you need to.

Girl, as my mid wife would tell me let your instincts be your guide. If you dont hurt, no soarness,its your body no one knnows it like you do and you want to have sex, by all means if it were me I would try and see how it goes , if it hurts then stop and wait a bit longer ..........Good Luck :)

It's probably fine, my doctor said to just wait four weeks, but I have to agree with the others on wondering how you're awake enough to do it! ;) Just make sure you use a condom, not that fun I know, but you don't want another baby! Have fun!!!

We did it after 3 weeks, and I was torn too. It hurt the first few times, but then was okay! Just don't get pregnant again!!!!

I would agree with checking with your OB, just to be sure, but my husband and I didn't wait 6 weeks, I'm not even sure we made it 3, and maybe its a good thing, because by 6 weeks the fatigue had set in and I was way too tired for a long time after that. I had a C-section though. Just check with your doc.

Shees, I don't even know when I wanted to after.

How old are you all that you can't wait? Must be young.

You go girl...go slow and if it doesn't hurt you then have a good time. One word of advice my OB gave me was to make sure to have some lubricant around, astroglide or ky, because the desire might be there but hormonally it is a bit "dry". Have fun!!

hi,
Well, it really depends on how bad the tear was.With my first,i waited the whole six weeks.Too scare that something will happen.My second four weeks but i didn't tear at all.My third ,labor was not hard at all(3 hours ,5 mn pushing and no tear),so we were back in business after two weeks. For us it was good too ,because when the third baby did get older and slept less like around 1-2 months when they more aware of their surrounding.We were not in the mood for quiet a while.I was exclusively nursing but make sure to not get pregnant again.Exclusively breastfeeding is not a good enough form of birth control.
Hope this help .
N.

We waited 4 weeks after our daughter was born. I felt the same way. We were very careful and took it very slow. My doc said 4-6 weeks, when I felt 'ready' would be the best time..

Hi S.,

6 weeks seems to be the generic rule for everyone in the postpartum period. My last Doctor told me to go ahead whenever I felt ready, and for me that was about 3 weeks after my son was born. Of course. it was a natural delivery, with no tearing or episiotomy, so I'm sure that contributed to me feeling so great afterward. I was still bleeding lightly, and I was afraid of infection but DH just used a condom and we were fine. We discontinued the condom use though, because of irritation, and I was pregnant again by the time my baby was 7 weeks old. Make sure you're protected! I was breast feeding only, and I still got pregnant. I had always heard that if you exclusively breast feed for the first 4 months. it's unlikely you will become pregnant. I knew there was a small risk, but I really did not expect to become pregnant! Other than that, I would say if you feel ready, go ahead. You know your body the best, and you can always stop if you are uncomfortable. Good luck, and congrats on your new little one.

K.

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My friends doctor told her that if she felt like she was up for it, go for it. As long as she was careful. My doctor said no (which was no problem because lack on a man and it hurt just to wipe till 7 or 8 weeks. Sorry tmi). Just be careful. Maybe try sticking a jumbo (or whatever size you feel is comparable lol) and see if it is ok. Maybe jiggle it too just in case.

I waited at least 6 weeks with my first 3 and it was very painful the first time. With my last, I was almost 6 weeks and had no problems! Have Fun!

After my son was born, sex was the last thing on my mind. I was bleeding, my episiotomy stitches itched, I was leaking milk, I was sleep deprived, I was sweating up a storm (my hormones were running amok), and I hardly had time for a shower once a day let alone get in the using of a sitz bath 3 times a day to help the stitches heal as fast as possible. We waited till 8 weeks, and even then It was a bit uncomfortable and my husband was afraid he'd hurt me. If you feel like it, go ahead carefully, but make sure you have some birth control in place or your next child could come along before your last child's first birthday.